Queen - The Dissection Of Our Social Absurdity - 1

 

(Caution: This post contains derogatory terms.)

There's already a lot been said about this movie but still I want to talk about it. This movie is a revolution. It is an eye opener to all those hardheaded rigid people who have turned away from facing the reality and who keep bragging about how great Indian culture is. There are a lot of things highlighted in this movie that are downright wrong in our society.

First, a girl like Rani, who is extremely beautiful, feels accomplished after getting engaged to a guy like Vijay, who looks like a bus conductor. I bet if it was reverse, this wouldn't be the case. A handsome guy will always resent if he has to marry a girl who is less attractive than him.

In this movie, first of all, Vijay didn't believe and acknowledge the fact that Rani is far more attractive than him. There can be two reasons for this, one, he is either too insecure to admit this fact or two, he is too full of himself and thinks he is Brad Pitt or something himself.

Second, after the engagement, Vijay already starts to behave as if he owns Rani, not allowing her to work, getting mad at her when she dances at a wedding. And poor Rani, instead of questioning his authority on her, feels extremely sorry for doing something her fiance` didn't approve of. I wonder what Vijay would have done if Rani had stopped him from doing something in such an insulting way.

Three, his scolding doesn't end there. He tells her on top of it - "Thank God Mummyji is not here, or else God knows what she'd have done." - Implying that she must behave according to his mother's rules. When he says the same thing again in Amsterdam after he finds out Rani have had champagne, Rani goes- "Jaao bol do Mummyji ko." - I swear I wanted to clap and whistle at this dialogue and I'd have done it if I wasn't scared to wake my daughter up before the movie ended.

The quality of obedience and tolerance are mentioned on the first page of the book called "The Definition Of An Ideal Woman " in India. From the childhood, women are taught that they should be tolerant, so in order for a woman to be called a "good woman", she has to tolerate all kinds of shit, but a man can be called a good man even without the quality of tolerance. In fact, tolerant men are considered less of a man.

If a woman voices her opinion, or God forbid, if she does something her husband and in-laws don't approve of, because she thinks they are either dumb or trying to enslave her, she will be crowned as the worst wife and the worst daughter-in-law in the community, and her parents will be blamed for her so-called misbehavior. No one will give her a benefit of doubt thinking maybe she is right. No. The man and his family is always right.

I know a lot of husbands who told their respective wives: "MARA" ghar ma rehvu hoy to hu kahu em rehvu padshe (If you want to live in "MY" house, you will have to do what I say). Meaning, even after spending her entire life living for the people of this house, it's still not HER house.

If I continue to mention the real life anecdotes I have witnessed in my life, I can write my own version of "Saat Pagla Akash Ma" (I was shocked after reading this book because it was written before I was born and a lot of the injustice to women is still prevalent in the society to this day).

Four, Vijay dumps Rani the day before the wedding. The thing that upsets me the most is - he is still justifying his behavior. He still genuinely believes that he hasn't done anything terrible. On top of it, this asshole tries to make Rani believe that he is doing this for her because she won't be able to adjust in London. Well, motherfu*ker, just be a man, and admit that you are an asshole.

The problem is, men expect and verbalize the most absurd demands from women so confidently that for a second, it sounds reasonable. Where do these jerks get this much confidence from? It is our society that has given reckless powers to men and their families.

(Just on the side note, I love the definition of a man that Sanjay Dutt gives in the movie PK : Sex- Male, Man, Aadmi, Harami, Kamina !! LOL !!)

As a society, we are more lenient with men, and less forgiving with women, and if you disagree with this statement, you are only kidding yourself. Women are expected to be very tolerant but the same level of tolerance is not expected from men. Why? I am genuinely looking for an explanation to this bullshit.

There are a lot of other things in the movie that show the sheer ugliness of our society. I have just one thing to say, and it is common sense, this is not even a thing to debate, it is fair and square, but I know even then a lot of people don't agree with this logic.

All I am saying is, if one thing is considered acceptable for a man to do, it must be considered acceptable for a woman as well; and if one thing is considered wrong for a woman to do, it also has to be considered wrong if a man does it.  If a man has certain expectations from his wife, then his wife also must be allowed to have the same expectations from him. Both of them should have the equal amount of duties and rights, equal amount of privileges and responsibilities.

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