Queen - The Dissection Of Our Social Absurdity - 2

 

(Cont. from the previous post)

Gender inequality is not a myth.

It is just very frustrating for me to see that, in India, women go to work and bear half of the financial burden of the family, and still her husband doesn't share half of her burden doing household chores. And yet, nobody finds it abnormal. I think the condition of working women is even worse than the housewives in India.

I know a woman in India, who is a doctor, and who is required to give all her salary to her husband, and she has to ask her husband's permission if she wants to spend money from her own salary. Moreover, her husband makes all the financial decisions without her consent. I don't know how women put up with this kind of nonsense in India.

(This doesn't imply that the condition of Indian women is worse than the condition of American women. In my opinion, American women have more problems than Indian women, but I'll talk about it some other time.)

In our society, the norm is not set based on its fairness and ethical value; instead, the norm is set based on the majority of people who believe in it. And when the majority of people practice unethical behavior, it becomes an ethic in that society.

Our society has become like that Brahman from one of the stories of Panchtantra, where four thugs try to steal a goat from him, saying it's a dog. And after the forth thug says- it's a dog, the Brahman is convinced that it's a dog and leaves the goat there.

If a majority of people think that the husband can claim his rights on all his wife's assets, and it is inappropriate for his wife to inquire about his salary and financial details, then that becomes the norm in that society.

Use your brain, people ! Jeez !!

My anger hits the roof when someone says- women are "genetically" build to be more tolerant, forgiving and submissive; and men are "genetically" egoist and superior than women. Such bullshit has brainwashed the thousands of generations of human kind. It's not genetic, men and women have evolved this way because of the social norms that are imposed on them in the evolution process that started thousands of years ago.

Even if women are more tolerant, it doesn't mean that you get the right to torture them because they can handle torture. Even if women are more forgiving, it doesn't mean that you do all kinds of shit in the world, and then expect her to forgive you. The problem is, when a woman tolerates the torture or forgives the cruelest crimes of her husband, men think his behavior is acceptable because you forgave them, and in most cases they will continue to behave in the same way.

There's this crappy quote about apologizing that says- "Apologizing doesn't always mean that you're wrong and the other person is right. It just means that you value your relationship more than your ego." - However, this approach is useless if the other person thinks that you are apologizing because you are admitting that you are wrong and keeps behaving in the same way thinking your apology meant : "I am wrong and you are right."

We have to change the way we raise our daughters. We teach them to be submissive and obedient. Being obedient is not bad, but obedience shouldn't come out of duty or fear. True obedience come when you have love, respect and complete trust for the person. When you are truly in love, you happily want to do everything the person asks you to do.

One of the biggest challenges is, there's a lot of misconception about "gender equality" in our society. The reason I was furious after watching Deepika's video about women empowerment is, she is saying women should be allowed to do all the things that men do, but the things she was mentioning were all morally unethical. If men and women both start to have extramarital affairs, our society will go to a gutter.
 
Gender equality doesn't mean that women should behave recklessly like men and get away with it like men do. These feminists are confused and making other women confused. Women don't have to act like men in order to achieve gender equality. Men have to bring themselves up to women's level in tolerance, understanding, responsibility, ethics and patience. That's when the true gender equality will be achieved.