The Moral Dilemma Of Choosing Between The Two Rights

I have only one favorite friend, I am her biggest fan. She is awesome. She is completely opposite than me and we complement each other very well. She has the purest and the softest heart. She has incredible resilience and determination. I have never seen her yelling and angry. I have never seen her bossing around people, but at the same time she is a very strong person. She is loving, caring, and a loyal friend who you can always rely on. I wish I was a lot more like her. 

I remember after we finished college, we both started preparing for the MD entrance exam. The only difference was, she was very serious about it, and I was not at all serious about it. The night before the exam, she sat me down and made me revise all the important topics. I was more than sure that she will crack this exam, and I was also sure that I will not crack the exam. 

This exam was just a backup plan for me, but for her, it was everything. She had declared her love for a boy that her parents didn't approve of and consequently had left her home and was living on her own in a hostel. 

But, as luck would have it, I passed the exam and she didn't. I got the last seat of MD. The difference of points between me and her was 1. I wish I could give my spot to her. She deserved it, not me. She worked much harder than me to pass this exam. 

She handled this failure very well. I knew she was struggling to make her ends meet. I, on the other hand, was living a comfortable life, and I didn't need the stipend that I was getting from my MD school.Why did the universe mess it up?

A few months after I started my MD school, she called me, and told me that she needs some money to pay her hostel fees. I immediately sent her the money from my stipend. I told my Mom- "I am going to Gandhinagar to give her the money." My Mom gave me a reluctant nod.

A month later, she called me again for the same reason. This time, my Mom stopped me. She knew that her parents had kicked her out because of her "affair". In her mind, my friend was not a "good girl", but I knew my friend was right and her parents were wrong. They didn't understand that the man she chose for herself was the best, and better than any man that her parents could find for her. 

Besides, the most important thing was, they loved each other. It doesn't happen very often that you love someone and they love you back, but when it does happen, you shouldn't let it go. 

I firmly believed that both of them should be together. But my Mom was already mad at me for having a friend who didn't go for an arranged marriage. My Mom told me- "Let her figure it out herself this time, you can't help her every time."

I am not saying my Mom was wrong. My mom was also right, and my friend was also right. I was in a serious dilemma.

I wanted to help her. I wanted to support her until she can find a good job. But my Mom's stern voice made me back down. I was already having friction with my Mom about me being rebellious and not obey my parents. I decided to be a good daughter for once, and gave up on being a good friend. 

I called her, gave her some excuse, and told her- I can't help you this time. 

She said very calmly- "It's okay, dear. Don't worry. I'll manage." - I don't know how she managed. She never asked for my help after that. I know she never had any grudges for me because of this. She still loved me a lot.

Eventually, she did get a great job, so did her boyfriend. They finally got married and today, both of them are very affluent. I am very happy to see that she would never need anybody's help ever again. 

The struggle doesn't happen when you have to choose between the right and the wrong, it is very easy to pick the right thing. The real struggle happens when you have to pick between two rights. I had to pick between being a good daughter and a good friend. Either way, I would have ended up feeling bad about myself.